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Willpower

You may have heard this sometime in your weight loss journey, “You just need more willpower!” Or maybe, if you’re like me, a lack of willpower is a weakness you already know you have and you wish there was something you could do to improve it. Making the difficult decision to be healthy is something you have to work at every day, and it’s not something that comes easy to most of us. How many times have you been starving at the end of the day and just said, “screw it,” and made your way to the quickest drive thru fast food. Trying to have the willpower to do the right thing is hard enough, and we all know how much harder it is to make good decisions when we are tired and hungry. Well, I just found this article in the New York Times about some interesting research about willpower. Here’s the link if you want to read it yourself! article

I learned that we can suffer from something called “decision fatigue.” The more often we have to make decisions during the day, the more fatigued our brain becomes, and when we are exhausted, we tend to do one of two things. Some people become impulsive. Two doughnuts? Why not! That $500 pair of shoes? Let’s do it! Other people tend to avoid the decision altogether by either putting the decision off until later, picking the safest option, or just going with the status quo. So how does this affect your diet and exercise life? If you know you have a difficult day ahead of you with lots of decisions to make, more than likely you will be decision-fatigued by the end of the day, and a lot of us leave our healthy habits for the end of the day as well. We have to make the decision to exercise and we have to decide what to eat for dinner. If you are impulsive, you’re more likely to be too tired to cook and you’ll order out chinese. Or, if you are more the status quo type, you may find yourself parked on the couch for the evening rather than make the decision to get up and go to the gym. So, what to do?

First, make things easy for yourself and make the decisions first thing in the morning. Put dinner in the crock pot before you go to work and pack yourself a lunch. You can make all your weekly dinners on Sunday and just put them in the over when you get home. That way, all the food decisions for the day (or week!) are already made and you won’t be so decision-fatigued.

  Second, make exercise a regular part of your routine that is unavoidable. You won’t have to agonize over whether you should go to the gym if you go first thing in the morning. Try to walk on your lunch break or take gym clothes with you and go right after work, before you go home. Once you’re home at the end of the day, you’ll have to choose to get back up and exercise, but if it’s already built into your day, you won’t have to make the decision to go. If you get a good routine going, just don’t’ let yourself off the hook! Once you start making exceptions, then it becomes a decision you have to make again.

 Have you found other ways to beat “decision-fatigue?” Let me know if any of these tips work for you!

 -Sara

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Tick tock tick tock……

One of the hardest steps in forging an exercises plan is finding a common time in which each of you can find 45 minutes to an hour each day to exercise. This has definitely been one of the hardest challenges my wife and I have come to face. I, being a shift worker and her a regular 9 to 5 worker, coupled with the fact that I am early bed and early riser and she lives more like a night owl, it’s hard to find a time where not only is neither one of us working but, we both a have the drive and willingness to have a workout worth our time. In order to make sure we actually work out, we like to use a technique I call back planning. All we simply do is sit down together and plan out our day or the next few days and start with our work out first.  We discuss our goals and exercise needs and make that the focal point of our day. From there, we back fill our schedule with our daily tasks. This also is helpful to our planning of meals.  We operate on our own for breakfast and lunch when it comes to times we eat but not in what we eat…. Now I may eat a little more, or she has a yogurt and I have a meal bar but we mainly eat the same things. Dinner we share the same portion and type of food. I know that this seems like a lot of work or that it is a little anal retentive, but it’s really easy.  We do it while watching T.V. or even while out on a run and the best benefit of this is we never run into one of those days where you don’t get to exercise or eat a decent dinner. Over time you actually begin to look forward to your exercise we even go as far as plan where we going to run. We like to mix things up so it’s not so boring.

Leave a post on your thoughts or ideas. I look forward to reading them I am sure that my wife and I can learn something from what you all do!

no….honey you dont look fat.

I think it is our genetic makeup as men, the wisdom of the Y chromosome, if you will to never EVER comment on a woman’s physique, weight, or eating habits. We tend to cringe if the dreaded “do I look fat?” question is posed to us. I think we can all agree that a direct statement of confirmation is a death sentence. What if she has gained weight or has begun to make unhealthy life choices; now what? Well I am going to share with you (at my own expense), the ways I have come to address this issue without offending anyone and benefit her, me, and our relationship as a whole.

1. Make it about yourself. If i want my wife to stay healthy or even get healthier, I will choose to make my looks and heath seem like what I want to improve. It’s simple; I just make statements that I want to lose a few or I’ll set a goal and hope that she comes along. Maybe she won’t at first, but over time she can’t help but feel obligated to join in or take notice of her own physique.

2. Ask her for help. This kind of a continuum of the first rule; I will make a statement or bring up in a discussion that I think I would like to change my eating habits (notice i did not say diet.  A healthy life style is not short fad, but is permanent mind set). My wife loves to boss me around and I know I’m not the only one that feels this way, but I use this to my advantage. She will come up with an eating plan and exercise plan and she comes with me every step of the way.

3. Take an inward look. This i think is the most important.  My wife is the “healthy” one in our relationship, and I tend to be the one who brings in the bad habits. I love pizza, Nachos, BEER!!!! I am the problem and sometimes I drag her down. So, in knowing this, I fix myself first. If I change my habits, then she will change hers.

4. Find the friction points. When i was working as a drill instructor we would always have to find ways to circumvent anything that could cause a delay or in some way throw a wrench into our momentum we have gained. We called these friction points. A common friction point in losing weight as a couple is meal choices, so I volunteer to do the shopping; I put myself in control of our dietary choices. Another friction point is finding time and energy to exercise during a busy work week. My wife works a regular 9 to 5 and I work 24 on and 48 off so to say we have a strange exercise routine is and understatement. I am an A.M. exerciser; I love the mornings, but my wife keeps the hours of a vampire. So if i think that were falling behind our goals or she behind hers, I change my habits to get us through that friction point. I now exercise at night with my wife, and we both benefit.  We push each other and keep each other honest by making sure we don’t fall of the wagon.

Good luck fellas! Tread lightly, but definitely tread for the better of your relationship and the heath of the both of you! Please feel free to comment, post thoughts or reactions i would love to hear from you!

Kevin

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